Gambians caught in secret video scandal
By Suntou Touray
This is not a message for the faint hearted. Our country Gambia is small but has passionate historical past. The Gambia many will say has strong cultural and moral values entrenched in her inhabitants. Human beings are equal in the eyes of God. No single human is better than the other, either by virtue of race, colour, tribe, culture, country or any other basis for that matter.
As a nation, Gambians like reminding other nationals that we are a tolerant, spiritual and kind hearted people. Our open door policy in absorbing different cultures made us such that, what we tend to value most are slipping away from the tips of our fingers.
You may be wondering what on earth this blabber talking about.
Well intelligent folks, the Gambia is said to be a secular state, with a secular constitution and civil society. But culturally, we are a religious nation. This is manifested in both our private and communal behaviours. The negative action of one Gambian can easily tarnish the reputation or image of the nation we all love and cherish.
This is no sermon folks. I am not a religious scholar to preach either. I am a fellow Gambian educated in the same schools like the many out there who are more qualified and better articulate to convey this sad and abhorrent message. What is the message?
It has come to the attention of some people that some Gambians have been caught up over a sex scandal in U.K. The parties involved are women. Their involvement relates to a Nigerian man who used to live in Gambia . This man is said to have married a Gambian woman. The man is well respected by the People of the town he married the young lady from. After living in the Gambia for sometime, the Nigerian man immigrated to England. He arranged for his wife to join him in the U.K.
What was not known is that the man has a secret life. His friendliness and outwardly respectful behaviour was to mask his promiscuous life. The man is said have bedded string of Gambian women whilst still married with his Gambian wife. Going to bed with Gambian women may not sound like crime per say. Those women have personal liberty to sleep with whoever they so desired. What is of concern regards the fact that this man secretly filmed all his targets and held the copies in his house. Some of the women involved are married women who are today fighting to save their respective marriages.
The pornographic video is said to be uploaded on the Internet and some are even suggesting that, the films might be the man’s normal business for living. His friends and acquaintance are saying the man stopped working for long time thus arousing suspicion that he sells or uploads the films of innocent women on the net to gain money.
You may wonder how much this becomes your business or mine. Good to question though. As a Gambian Muslim, it is a religious duty and a nationalistic duty for us to do our best in promoting and preserving the good name of our country. On my part, the intention here is to caution fellow Gambians that we are from noble people and good backgrounds. The freedom modern societies avail us shouldn’t be a license to waste our lives and along the way tarnish our collective images. This case is said to be under police investigation as there were some young girls involved in the scandal. What is it that makes a married Gambian woman abandon her marital house for fooling around with another married Nigerian man? Our society is seriously in need of repairs. This shameful act is not limited to women alone. Men are also into questionable acts as well. What happens to the Wollof doctrine of ‘self-respect’, the Fulla philosopher of ‘shame’, the Mandinka principle of ‘shunning disgrace’, the sarahuleh conduct of ‘hard work and upholding religious ethics’? What has gone wrong with all those golden Gambian values?
Each and every one of us has in us an in-built ‘fitrah’ (in born faculty of reason.) This confers in us the ability to distinguish what is morally right and what is wrong. Having sexual intercourse with a Nigerian man may not be seen by some as crime. However when the man films you unaware and then sell it is illegal and morally bankrupt that is something to worry about. For the sake of our faith we are miles better to control our behaviours and watch what we do. Life is too short to waste.
At this crucial time, the matter is bigger than being judgemental of each other. The underlying reason for this act might be many folds. The man could have induced these women with money or other material seduction. Sadly the outcome of this moral corrupt behaviour is separation of married couples and incurring on the parties involves untold shame and guilt. The wider ramification here is not about the nationality of the man. He could have been a Gambian or Senegalese for that matter. The saga has exposed the failing of some parents who never utter a word of advice to siblings in Europe or America . All that some parents ever enquire about is when will they receive their allowance in monetary benefits.
The culprit who film is conquest is said to also film other non-Gambian women he had intercourse with. Some concerns Gambians are said to have watch the video in a police station to subside the rumour of some innocent women suspected of being part of the collection.
I hope that our moral ethics and religious faith lead the way for us wherever we are. May God guide our actions. Amen